Phyllis A. MacLuan CPA P.C.

(Originally posted: 2/1/11)

So, still thinking about changing and the stages in making major changes in our lives. We know that if we have clear defined goals that we feel strongly about attaining we have a better of success. But sometimes even if we are working towards goals that are vital to our happiness we stumble along the way and get discouraged. The motivation that we need during times of change unfortunately is mostly going to need to come from us. The key is to plan for this in advance and build in a system that will help us reach our goal. It should be a system with several components, perhaps prizes, an encouraging buddy, some motivating mantras, programs and/or music and perhaps even a do over moment or day, if things really go awry.

If you’re a parent, perhaps you’ve used a star chart with your child. Even if you are working on a task or a behavior that was negative for your child they are usually so happy about the star chart that overall it becomes a positive experience. So what would a “big” kid star chart look like?? Okay so it doesn’t have to be an actual chart but you do need some positive reinforcement for your commitment and dedication. This has to be what would work for you but some ideas could be a small prize, a massage, a lunch date with a friend, a book you’ve been wanting to read and I could go on and on because that’s what it would have to do to include something for everyone. You know you best. If your partner or best friend was going to surprise you with a little something to cheer you up on a down day what would you want that to be???

Next comes the encouraging buddy. Please keep in mind when thinking of someone for this role that you really do want to reach your goal and that you’ve probably already done all of the research necessary for that to happen. You also know the reasons that reaching your goal are important to you and how your life will change when it happens. You don’t want this person to lecture or educate you! You want them to support you. Sometimes if the appropriate friend or partner is not available, a coach is necessary. If you meet someone with a similar goal it can be ideal for both of you. As an adult one of the best ways to meet other like minded individuals is your business networking groups. Usually those people are motivated proactive people who strive to stay positive in their journey. You can form your own support group. Just don’t forget to celebrate together when those goals are reached.

Materials that support and encourage can come from many places. Your place of worship, your women’s or men’s club, the self-help section of the bookstore, the internet including Hayhouse and their many talented authors and the list just goes on. Don’t be afraid to look around and see what’s out there.

And sometimes you could have a completely off day or even week. Unless you know that you’re purposely bailing, be kind and gentle to yourself. Pick yourself up, dust off a bit and go on. And please remember that even if you’re not religious great power can be found in prayer and meditation, even if you’re praying to your higher self.

Good luck and Godspeed on staying the course.

(Originally posted: 1/18/11)

Change is one of the most difficult factors that we face as human beings. It might be our biggest fear outside of death.  And as is death, change is unavoidable. Even when there appears to be zero change and we are stuck, we are changing. The caveat is that we are changing to the same old thing time and time again. Our bodies constantly rebuild every single cell, in fact, in seven years the entire body is refreshed. Many factors go into how changes occur around us as well as in us. Our thoughts, feelings and emotions play a huge role. If we come from a place of balance and flexibility we can withstand and perhaps embrace change easier than if we are rigid in our body and thinking. Yoga, meditation, tai chi have all been thought to help us become more flexible and balanced. So as we come into the New Year with our resolutions, goals and dreams we know that to incorporate some of these into our life, we must embrace the change.

(Originally posted: 1/4/10)

One of my resolutions for this year, is to spend more time networking. Where do resolutions come from? Are they well thought out or spur of the moment to fulfill the need for a resolution? For many of my adult years, I’ve struggled with the New Year’s Celebration with much of the focus on resolutions and such. I wouldn’t really think about it much and then on New Year’s Eve or worse, New Year’s Day someone would give me pen and paper to record my resolutions. I was just not prepared. So I’ve been trying a different strategy. Starting in the fall, I begin thinking about my year. What worked, what bombed, what did I love, like, hate, etc, etc. What excites me? I accumulate all of those ideas, answers, dreams and then when the New Year comes I am ready to begin to implement my new ideas and let go of habits and beliefs that no longer serve me. This year I am also completing a dream or vision board at this time. While boarding is not new to me, it is the first time I am preparing one at the start of a new year focusing on change with the support of the collective energy of most of our world. So, Happy New Year to You!

(Originally posted: 5/18/10)

This week my thoughts are going off in at least 30 different directions.  When one works in a business alone, one of the hardest things is to stay focused and motivated. When I’m in that place, my network often reconnects me to my sense of purpose.  It will help me refocus and stay grounded.   My network is a needed resource at times like that.

Groups that meet on a regular basis, as we do, become accustomed to each other’s energy. We know, probably on an intuitive level more than a conscious one, when someone has lost their focus. As you interact during the week with the other members they will offer what you need. Sometimes it’s just a kind word.  Other times, it’s a lunch date, time for coffee/tea, or even help with a business strategy.  All this often before we’ve even met for the week.

Our meetings definitely affect what we bring to the rest of our week. The meetings are always fun; and who doesn’t need some mid-week fun. Spending time with other business owners and professionals that are also focused on success can recharge your desire and reengage you in your personal drive to bring your best. Each meeting is a dynamic experience that changes based on the energy and needs of the group.   I’m always amazed at how the group’s energy come together and serves the needs of the individual members.

So what do you need this week, in your business, to support your dreams, goals and plans?